Relationship Tip 2

Aim To Astound Your Partner With Your Generosity

Relationships work best when you ask yourself what you can give to your partner, rather than working out what you can get. This is how your relationship started out way back in the infatuation phase. Nothing was too much trouble because it was all fun and exciting. Even going to the supermarket was an adventure and maybe even a place you could show each other off. So what could you give to your loved one today? This will work as long as both of you are generous.

In the beginning, try to stay focused on what you can give rather than what you’re not getting - you may find that your generosity is infectious. If you want more excitement in your relationship then take the lead, become more exciting, plan exciting events. Put briefly, become the change that you’d like to see.

One of the ideas that can really help in this area is to commit to the idea of ‘Date Night’. On a regular basis you or your partner are responsible for coming up with a night out. If you make it something you know you’re loved one is going to be thrilled about you're almost guaranteed a great night.

The list you did with your partner earlier about how to re-romanticise your relationship really helps here. Now you have lots of options to give to your partner in ways you know they’ll love. All of this begins to establish an environment where you can start to turn toward each other again.

When you started sleeping together you probably began by sleeping face to face and couldn’t quite believe your luck. As you got more and more entrenched in your power struggle and the resentments, chances are, you ended up sleeping back to back, hurt and lonely. You know this is just too sad, so now is the time to start turning toward each other. This tip is one of the easiest to get started on and begins to build its own momentum.

Remember, try not to get too caught up on whether you’re getting anything in return in the beginning. Potentially your partner will be trying to establish that the new you is permanent enough to be worth re-engaging with. Give it at least a month and content yourself with going to bed knowing you’ve been generous.

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