What Does Your Market Value Mean For You?

First I want you to total up the eight different scores you've got. Divide that number by eight. Now multiply by 10

You now have your percentage score.

Are there any areas you need to work on in order to build a stronger relationship with your current partner or for the future and a potential new partner?

If your wheel looks large and round - smooth enough to run your car on, then you've nothing to worry about. If it looks more like the star you'd put on top of your Christmas tree, then you've got some work to do.

If you are still struggling with the concept of having a market value, don't take my word for it. Instead, start looking around for yourself. If you only take physical appearance as an example, the people who are within twenty points of each other are generally happier and more affectionate in public.

This is complicated by the fact that you live in a time when you've been told that you can have anything you want from life, so your expectations are initially to not accept anything less than perfect. Well, that seems to be true so long as you're a maximum of twenty points away from perfection yourself. There seems to be such a level of narcissism that it's not unusual for me to hear phrases like “That's just the way I am” or the classic “That's just the man she married so why should I change?”.

In a relationship, one of the most common causes for break ups is a sense that someone has upgraded their market value in some way and the partner is lagging behind. There's now a lack of equality in the relationship. So if your wife has recently got herself an M.A. or doubled her salary and you're still hanging out down the pub with your mates, you'd better wake up. It's time to see a stylist about your wardrobe, maybe invest in a personal trainer but most importantly work with a coach or therapist on becoming a more passionate person.

For those of you thinking you should hold out to marry the knight in shining armour, this article will hopefully clarify why that would actually be a disaster in disguise for you (unless you're within 20 points of the knight with the aforementioned shining armour).

I've worked with people who've found themselves in terrible positions because they've managed to trade up. One woman I coached got with a very wealthy guy. He treated her really badly and she's living with it because she's just grateful for the lifestyle.

Be careful what you wish for, it's important that you deserve it.

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