Relationship Quiz - Your Market Value

Now it's time to work out your market value with the following relationship quiz.

To do that, I want you to score yourself from one to ten in each of the areas listed below. It helps to do this visually as you'll be able to see what's going on more easily. There's a 'wheel' below, which you can print off and fill out. Below that, I've listed out the categories and their descriptions to help you work out what scores to give yourself on the wheel.

The 8 sections represent the potential for very high market value. Take the centre, or hub, of the wheel as 0 (totally dissatisfied) and the outer edge as 10 (totally satisfied). Rank your level of satisfaction with each area of your approach by putting a cross on the relevant spoke.

This will be a lot more helpful if you can be totally honest and realistic with yourself, even if that means you don't come off looking as good as you might hope. You may even want to get one of your more critical friends involved for the real truth.

Score yourself on the basis of your overall feeling during the last three months. Below are explanations of the kinds of things you need to consider in each area. Once you've worked out your scores, you need to prioritise the weak areas to work on if you want to make more of an impact on those around you.

Sexually Confident and Competent: Sexual chemistry is a major factor in keeping a long-term relationship passionate or even getting attention in the beginning. Are you able to discuss all your likes and dislikes with your partner? When problems arise are you able to resolve them easily or do you sweep them under the duvet? Is there any thing you already know about that may be getting in the way of you being the sexual God or Goddess you were born to be? Low score? Buy the 'The Guide To Getting It On' by Paul Joannides.

Attractive and Available Image: Even when in a relationship it's important that you take the time to look your best, all the time. How lucky were you when they were giving out good looks and good figures?

If you're a woman how much time and energy have you invested in ensuring that you come across as warm, attractive and approachable? If you're a man how much work have you done on coming across as strong, competent and able to take home more that your fair share of the kill? Have you had a recent make-over? Does your wardrobe accentuate your assets? Are you dressing age appropriate? If this area is a challenge for you then either get a makeover or buy 'What Not To Wear' by Trinny and Susannah if you're female . Buy 'Off The Cuff' by Carson Kressley if you're male. If weight is an issue, buy 'Susie Orbach On Eating' and keep in mind that dieting makes you fat!

Financially Fit: Looking at your finances, can you see whether you'd be perceived as an asset or a liability? Do you even understand the difference? Times have changed and people have very high expectations. So if you have considerable unsecured debts (credit cards, store cards, bank loans) you may need to start taking more responsibility for your spending. This is especially important if you're male.

Women you need to know that men are starting to distinguish between a money honey and a poor bunny. Best books: 'The Richest Man In Babylon' by George Clason and 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad' by Robert Kiyosaki.

Communication and Conflict Resolution: Given the goal is to deepen a long-term relationship emotional maturity is essential. How able are you to be totally open and honest? Do you tend to react when you'd rather respond? Do you suspect your expectations of your partner may be unrealistic? Are you able to take 50% of the responsibility for your past relationships not working? For great ideas get 'How To Make Love All The Time' by Barbara De Angelis or 'Getting The Love You Want' by Harville Hendrix.

Flirting/Seduction Skills: Your ability to arouse and maintain your partners attention is incredibly important when it comes to staying excited about each other. How comfortable are you with flirting? How good are you at generating your mate's excitement? Are you a person that your partner is thrilled to spend an evening with? Do you know how to ask the questions that make people feel fantastic? Best books: 'Superflirt' by Tracy Cox and 'How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You' by Leil Lowndes.

Getting Your Needs Met: You are a needy individual whether you like it or not. The important thing is that you clearly understand how to get your need for love and safety met appropriately rather than pushing people away. Coming up with better ways of getting your needs met avoids confusion and problems in your life enabling you to form healthier relationships, including one with your current partner. If you're spending a lot of time feeling unloved or unsafe in your relationship then you are scoring low in this section. First step? Make sure you've identified your needs.

Self Esteem: Given you tend to attract your emotional equal, are you in the best emotional shape you can be? Are you happy and content? Do you radiate confidence? Remember, you could be spending a lot of time with the people you attract. More importantly you spend all your time with you. How much do you love you? Read 'Learned Optimism' by Martin Seligman, if this is an issue for you.

Excited and Engaged in life: The people who radiate a sense of excitement shine like diamonds in a world of mediocrity. How much of your work and life have you managed to base around the things you love? If you have a thirst for knowledge, are you still learning? If you love a challenge, when was the last time you gave yourself a bit of a scare? Are you still living your dream? Read 'Awaken The Giant Within' by Tony Robbins.

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