Relationship Communication - How To Make Your Relationship Work

As you progress into the second half of this book, I'm really hoping that you've discovered that your challenges aren't with relationship compatibility but rather lie in the area of relationship communication. Potentially you've got years invested in your partner and it would be a pity to have to rebuild all that with someone new.

Deciding to stay is the tougher path. Re-educating yourself about how to get along better is going to take patience and dedication on your part. It's my wish though, that given the work you've done, you now understand that it's worth it and are willing to give it a go.

If I was to coach you personally, I'd be looking for you to make a three month commitment to this program. It's relatively easy to work out compatibility but changing communication habits formed over months or years is going to take a lot more effort. This is the reason for having you work out your compatibility first; if you're going to invest so much time and energy in working at changing your relationship, it's going to take motivation. Knowing this person is possibly the love of your life and the two of you have potentially just got stuck makes it all the more worth while.

Try to keep in mind that any breakthroughs or new understandings you gain in the relationship communication section actually impact your whole life. There are skills you can learn here that you'll use for the rest of your life that will improve all your relationships. So even if you and your current partner don't manage to resolve your communication differences, at least you'll have a clearer understanding of what went wrong and how to avoid repeating the pattern.

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The Reality of Relationships