How Do You Know If You're Compatible?

In my work there are three key areas that I focus on in order to figure out the compatibility of a couple. Most couples get together at the beginning of a relationship because it 'feels' so right. But are you truly compatible? You need to understand the key areas of compatibility and start working out in each area whether or not you are fundamentally compatible.

3 questions to relationship compatiblity

In order to understand the key areas of compatibility these are the three most important questions that I'll ask you to answer. I'll explain this in much greater detail in just a minute but I just want to show you the direction we're heading in.

1. Do you have the required chemistry?
2. What are your basic human needs?
3. Do you share similar values and goals?

Once you've answered those questions you'll be in a much better position to then move on to:

• Determine whether you are compatible in three key areas
• Summarise what your qualities your ideal partner would have.
• Work out if, or what, you need to change about yourself!

If by doing the exercises it becomes obvious that you are compatible, then you only need to work on your communication and more importantly how you manage conflict. The good news is you'll know the work is worth doing because you now understand that you are meant to be with your partner.

However, it's also possible that you've managed to fall in love with someone who is totally unsuited to making you happy long term because you are incompatible. If this turns out to be the case, then it's time to think about how to end the relationship in a way that allows you to keep your dignity intact and not do either of you any lasting damage.

Before we proceed, let's take a quick snapshot of where you are in your relationship. The following relationship quiz cuts across all the areas of compatibility and communication. It will give you a very quick bit of feedback on your perception of the current state of your relationship.

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