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End Your Relationship Quiz

Where Are You Currently?

Let me say that this relationship quiz isn't a definitive answer. It's not intended to say - if you scored below 50, you should leave. But it will allow you to reflect on how far from ideal you really are.

I wouldn't be surprised if the emotions you are going through are distorting your view of your relationship. This quiz will help to pull it back into perspective.

So give your relationship a score out of ten for each category in the quiz below. Think about your relationship over the long term and not just during a bad patch. This is a really important point. Even in a healthy relationship there will be times when some people feel like they couldn't tolerate another moment of their partner's company.

The total will give you a score out of 100 and indicates the health of your relationship. This exercise will identify the weaknesses you see in your relationship and, if you share it with your partner at some point in the future, will allow you to discuss whether you're both willing to work on those weak areas to push your score up.

End Your Relationship Quiz

Sex - How sexually fulfilled do you feel?

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Fun - Sense of humour. Shared interests. How much do you laugh together?

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Shared values - Do you have a similar philosophy of life and moral code?

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Common goals - Are you heading in the same direction? Do you want the same things or is there room for compromise?
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Social life - Friends and family. How happy are you with the level and quality of interaction?
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Conflict resolution - How well do you both manage disagreements? Do you respect each other's boundaries? Are you able to ask for what you need?

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Communication - Do you know what's going on in each others life and are you both interested? How would you both do on a "Mr & Mrs" style quiz?
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Chores - How happy are you both with the way chores are shared?
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Emotional support - How supportive is your partner especially in times of stress and illness?
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Career support - How supportive is your partner of your career or other aspirations?

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Your score:

How do you feel about your score then?

Personally, my time and energy is precious and I would only put them into a relationship where I could expect at least 70% happiness in the long run. In the past few years I've had to face up to the fact that a score of 100% is unrealistic. What are you prepared to shoot for? 

If your score is really low then one of two things could be true. Either your relationship is never going to meet your needs because you are fundamentally incompatible (and always have been) in which case it's time to plan an exit strategy.

Alternatively, and this is my hope, you've just got so locked into a power struggle, which I'll talk about later on, that all you can see are your resentments. So please, don't give up yet.

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