What Do You Need To Change About Yourself?

The idea of market value comes from a book by Leil Lowndes called “How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You ” and personally I think it's great. I say that because a few of my clients have really wrestled with the implications of having a score assigned to them.

Market value is based on things like: physical appearance, possessions or money, status or prestige, information or knowledge, social graces, personality and inner nature.

I wasn't sure about this concept in the beginning but after doing some research of my own, I think it would be foolish to ignore the implications. I think it's particularly important if you're already in a relationship.

If you've already done the work on the Perfect Partner exercise you really need to consider the following. What would a partner like the one you've described score out of a hundred?

It's a really interesting exercise - particularly when you understand that happy couples are rarely more than twenty points away from each other.

However, it is possible to trade across currency. For example, let's say you're not so hot in the looks department but you're loaded and great in bed, then you may still be able to retain or attract a Brad Pitt or a Catherine Zeta Jones. You know this is true because every time you see some older guy with a gorgeous model for a companion it's assumed he's either loaded or an amazingly sensitive lover.

You also have it within your power to change yourself. To up your scores by looking at the areas that are important in someone's market value and decide that you want and need to change if you're going to meet the standards of your partner.

Fill out the chart in the following quiz and you'll get a much better sense of what I'm talking about here, and where you stand. The sections are all explained on the next page.

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The Market Value Quiz