Nightlife - Bottom of the list!

Yes, if you want to find a partner, traditional nightlife is the worst place you can do it!

OK, OK. Let me explain. And let me first say that if you're already meeting people successfully at the pubs and clubs, then keep on using them. If they work for you, that's fine.

It's just that for a significant number of you, pubs and clubs are a nightmare place to find partners. Fantastic for having a laugh and enjoying yourself, but rubbish for finding your ideal man or woman.

There are plenty of better alternatives to nightlife as a place to pull.

Why isn't nightlife the place to be?

• Everyone's trying to impress therefore if you want to make an impression you have to try too hard
• It mostly relies on men having the guts to approach you - and the ones that are able to do it easiest are usually the sleaziest!
• Or if you're a man approaching women, particularly if they're in groups, is way too scary
• The women are normally in a group ;-)
• Fun and flirty conversation and music with the volume pumped up usually don't go - unless you like half heard sentences & phlegm in the ear!
• It's not easy to work out who's single and who's just out for a laugh with their mates.

Nightlife - is it really all bad?

No. But when it comes to finding partners, almost!

OK. Like I said before. If you want a laugh and to enjoy yourselves, then pubs and clubs can be fantastic. But for picking up potential Romeos or Juliets there are not many redeeming features.

The best thing I can think to say is that if the two of you manage to get together and either exchange numbers or leave together, there must be some pretty good physical chemistry there.

Otherwise, give the pubs and clubs nightlife a miss and try something else.