Flirting Advice
August 24th, 2006(Or using your conversation to get that first kiss)
I’ve been coaching Jerry for a couple of months now and he’s onto the multiple dating part of my program. He now knows what he’s looking for, he knows where to find lots of women he’s interested in and he even knows how to get their interest. As a result he’s getting past the first date and now wants to know how to make the next step. Moving the relationship forward from just being friends to getting physically intimate.
Have you ever been in a situation where you are over at your date’s house, it’s getting really late, to the point where you’re beginning to suspect that you may have moved beyond being friends but you’re really not sure? How do you get to that next step? Read the rest of this entry »
Should I Run Away Screaming?
August 9th, 2006At the moment I’m busy re-writing and expanding our ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go?’ report. In the years since I wrote it I’ve been asked many times for my opinion around the correct time to leave a relationship. I’ve given this a lot of thought and study and here is where I’m at with it. Read the rest of this entry »
How Dolphin Training Can Improve Your Relationships
July 25th, 2006When I was younger, and didn’t understand the political implications of keeping animals in captivity, I wanted to be a dolphin trainer. As a result I used to do a little work at a dolphinarium.
As you probably know dolphins are very smart and love to play games. When I began feeding them they’d come right up the edge, however over time they began to move a little further away. It started out with me having to straighten my arm a little more but quickly progressed to me leaning over the pool trying to reach them. At this point it all seemed innocent enough, I mean let’s face it, Dolphins are amazing and any contact with them is good contact. I was willing to forgive them their laziness as I just felt privileged to be able to play with them. It struck me recently that this is how we feel at the beginning of any relationship that excites us. Read the rest of this entry »
Why, Oh Why, Do I Keep Dating B’astards?
July 12th, 2006This is such a recurrent question that I think it’s got to be worth an article so that hopefully you can simplify your life even though I’m not coaching you directly.
The first thing to do is work out what exactly constitutes a ‘B’astard’ because it’s way beyond some poor guy born outside of wedlock.
It’s not just a guy who has a hard time communicating and walks off in a strop every time you have an argument. For the purposes of this article let’s talk about the guys who can’t be trusted on the fidelity front, can’t be relied upon to keep a date with you and generally puts out a vibe that you should be grateful for his presence. I’m talking about the guys that are overly comfortable with getting seriously verbally abusive and may even give you the occasional slap (mental or physical) ‘for your own good.’ They aren’t great with your friends and rarely seem able to support you when your life gets challenging. In fact there are probably times when you might be wondering ‘Why is it always about you?’
So the question you would do well to ask yourself is ‘What is it about these guys that makes them so compelling to me?’
How To Meet 10 Gorgeous Partners Every Night
June 28th, 2006How much easier would your dating life be if you knew you could go out and virtually guarantee to talk to 5-10 gorgeous potential partners in one night?!
Where can you go and meet more potential dates than you’d get on a speed dating event? And what if you could go there, hone your flirting skills freely and never have shyness enter the equation?
There’s only one place I know of where you can do this and I think it’s time to tell you. In my professional opinion this is the single finest asset in any single person’s life. It’s…
How A Single Woman Went From 5 Dates In A Year, To 100
June 13th, 2006I want to tell you about Rosemary Mitchell.
In the 11 months before she came to work with me she’d been out with 5 men. 2 dates came to nothing, 2 led to a few weeks of seeing each other before they ended. 1 turned into a 5-month relationship.
“I suppose that could describe a lot of years in my dating life! The problem is, it just keeps happening - every year. I’m truly fed up. It has to change” she said.
As I finished working with her, she was on track to get over 100 dates within a year.
Let me tell you how.
Are You A Master or Disaster of Relationships?
June 1st, 2006After decades of research, both personal and professional, I’ve come to the conclusion that if you’re serious about being in a relationship you’d better get comfortable with the fact that you’re going to fight with your loved one from time to time. Given it’s a given, how much would you value a quick and easy technique for making these conflicts a lot less painful and potentially fun?
How To Make Dating More Fun
May 16th, 2006I was recently talking with a client who expressed great frustration with the amount of stress she was experiencing whilst looking for her Mr. Right. I know it can be a real challenge but I like to keep the whole dating thing very simple. In fact I think when you’re single and looking for dates even talking about dating is a major mistake as it implies something far heavier than what you are actually doing initially. I’ve got some ideas for you that others have used to great effect when it comes to meeting up with someone for the first time and how to make it more fun for you.
Love Relationships And The Holy Grail!
May 15th, 2006Love relationships - relationships love. What a pair!
If you’re single you’re searching for it. If you’re together with someone you’re wondering whether this is really it. When you’ve been together for a long time sometimes you might wonder if you’ve lost it.
Wouldn’t it all be so much easier if love was easily identifiable?! Something binary - that you either had or you didn’t. That you could look in your handbag or your wallet and say, ‘Yup, It’s there.’
Fortunately, it’s not! Why - it wouldn’t be anywhere so tantalising and fantastic if it was so predictable.
But enough rambling - back to those key questions.
Where do you find love?
Are you in love?
How do you know if it’s true love?
Are You Really Angry?
May 4th, 2006I really want relationships to work, I want them to be places that we can enjoy being in. I want relationships to be the best thing about our lives rather than the largest source of pain. As a result I was recently having a conversation with a fellow coach and she shared something with me that I found to be blinding in its brilliance. It’s something that puts the pain and frustration that we all experience from time to time in our relationships into perspective. She said, ‘When you think about it, pretty much every argument you have is about one or other of the couple seeking reassurance’. Allow me to explain.