Diana is sick to death of Steve. She’s sick of their continual bickering, she’s sick of the fighting, she’s sick of spending so much time in separate beds, she’s sick of how anxious she feels and she’s sick of obsessing about the relationship so much of the time. As a result she decided to drag Steve along with her for some marriage help.

As with most of the couples I see, one of the primary areas that Diana and Steve were struggling with was their understanding of how to apply healthy boundaries. I’m about to give you a lesson that has the potential to totally revolutionise the way you approach life and how you feel about it. You might not need marriage help, but I can assure you that this article will simplify your life.

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I run a course called Finding Mr Right for women looking for dating advice. At some point during the classes or workshop I like to check out people’s understanding of what love really is. I do this by asking them what their favourite love stories are, books or movies. It’s a really useful exercise so I’d ask you to think about it right now. This isn’t just for people seeking dating advice, it’s also very helpful as relationship help because it could assist you to become a little more forgiving.

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He Never Says ‘I Love You’!

Joyce* has been coming to me for relationship advice for a couple of months as she was considering leaving her relationship. She’d been with this guy for the last two years but had got to the point where she could no longer ignore her sense of feeling unloved and under appreciated. Initially she was very angry with her partner James, but has more recently she’d come to the understanding that the level of pain she was in was her responsibility not his.

One of the biggest areas for potential growth occurs the moment you accept that it’s your job to educate your partner about what makes you feel most loved. Then, for a truly magnificent relationship, learn how to love your partner how they want to be loved, not how you think they want to be loved.

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Your Sexual Pilot Light!

It may be an indication of my age but I can remember an advert for Turkish Delight that featured a tag line stating that it was ‘full of eastern promise’. Come to think of it the Flake adverts weren’t exactly subtle either. I’ve got close friends in advertising and you can bet that if there’s a way of working sex into an ad they’ll find it. If you are looking for great dating advice then those ads hold some helpful clues.

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As more and more couples come to me for marriage counselling it becomes clear to me that many of the problems between couples are actually communication based issues, rather than compatibility mismatches, than I ever realised. You may not need marriage counselling but the lessons I’ve learned from my marriage counselling training have proven to be invaluable for many of my clients, married or not!

I’m about to teach you a skill that may well revolutionise the way you view conflicts in your life.

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Here are 7 practical steps to making the pain of your break up disappear as soon as possible. I’m hoping they’ll give you some ideas about how to get over a break up and turn surviving into thriving in the quickest way. Heartbreak is really, really painful and I know that there are times it can feel over whelming. I also know that, while it may sound trite to you right now, time is a healer. Sometimes it’s enough just to draw another breath or get out of bed again. You need to know that you are far bigger than your biggest feeling and keep in mind that even your darkest hour is only going to be 60 minutes in length.

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One of my clients came to me recently very confused about why his relationship seemed to be getting worse, even though he’d been using the ‘Time Out’ tool I’d taught him. As far as Paul was concerned they’d managed to go without rowing for over a month which appeared to be a total breakthrough given the level of friction previous to my coaching. However, his wife Serena was less than thrilled with what she referred to as, ‘his continual withdrawal’ and, ‘running away from the relationship’. If anything, she was even more ready to end their marriage than she’d been before we started work.

If you’d like to know one of the biggest relationship killers identified by two of the world’s leading relationship experts, and how to avoid doing it, then read on.

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Supposing I said that it’s possible to figure out exactly how attractive you are to the opposite sex and that it would take you less than two minutes to do so. What if I said I could then point you in exactly the right direction to make yourself more attractive. What if I was willing to do that for free. Would that be of any interest to you?

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At the moment I’m busy re-writing and expanding our ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go?’ report. In the years since I wrote it, I’ve been asked many times for my opinion around the correct time to leave a relationship. I’ve given this a lot of thought and study and here is where I’m at with it.

There are only ever two things that can be wrong in a relationship. The first is poor communication and the second is poor compatibility. That keeps it nice and simple and in my mind simple is good. As a result, a friend and I put together a quiz to test the current level of fulfilment in your relationship. It expands all the areas contained in communication and compatibility. Give it a go and see what you think. You could also test out some of your past relationships and work out whether they were better or worse than you current relationship.

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There is a question I’m asked more than any other when it comes to Finding Mr. or Miss Right, when I tell people that it’s essential that they take the time to work out their perfect partner. The question goes like this ‘Why, when my friends just found their partner, should I have to start working out specifically who I want in order to meet them?’

One of my newsletter readers sent me this little story about finding love, and I think it makes a great point.

One day, a man asked his teacher, “What is love? How can I find it?” The teacher answered, “There’s a large wheat field in front. Walk there without turning back at any point, and take just one leaf. If you can find one leaf that you think is more extraordinary than all the other leaves, it means you have found love.”

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