I work with people on shaping their perfect life. A big chunk of that work is on getting them the relationship they’ve always dreamed of, whether that’s singles looking for love or people in couples looking to relight their fire. I find that it’s very easy for my clients to get stuck in feeling either sad or angry about how life isn’t all they dreamed it would be and end up feeling impoverished by their experience. This is terrible for a couple of reasons. Not least is the fact they get to feel sad or angry!

As we come toward the end of the year I’m aware of how miraculous I’m experiencing life as being. Both through the things I’ve experienced as shifting in and around my own life and in the lives of my clients. As we’re coming up on Christmas I thought I’d share some ideas with you about how you too might experience life as miraculous. (more…)

Every time I present a class on ‘How to Talk to Anyone’ I’m asked by at least 50% of the class to explain how to best approach strangers. In particular, people want to know how to approach someone they find attractive.

There’s a very common attraction pattern where the better they appear, the scarier we make them. There’s a funny (well, painful really!) dynamic that occurs when you’ve become excited and interested in a member of the opposite sex whereby you suffer the paralysis of analysis. What would I say? Maybe he’s too busy to talk to me? Supposing she thinks I’m an idiot?

How often in your life have you seen someone that looks really interesting, and in some way attractive to you, yet you haven’t done anything about it? Would you like to learn an easy to master technique to rid yourself of this problem once and for all?

The fear of introducing yourself to strangers applies to far more than singles trying to get a date; it’s relevant to anyone that has to meet people. That said, the most painful occurrences are generally around love interests so that’s going to be the focus of this article. (more…)