Archive for the 'Couples' Category
Remember What Your Parents Told You!
Wednesday, September 26th, 2007I’ve recently been coaching a guy, we’ll call him John, who’s in a new relationship with someone he’s absolutely thrilled with. She measures up to the most important pieces on his perfect partner pages in a way he could never have dreamed of and yet he was not happy. She has a tendency to show […]
Protecting Yourself From Other People’s Garbage
Thursday, July 26th, 2007Last week I was driving in my car and reflecting on how great life is. I have a thing about aiming to stay in the moment, so I was busy paying attention to what a perfect moment it was.
I enjoy driving. It’s one of those times I’m able to stop rushing around trying to […]
Marriage Help That Really Helps
Wednesday, June 27th, 2007Diana is sick to death of Steve. She’s sick of the their continual bickering, she’s sick of the fighting, she’s sick of spending so much time in separate beds, she’s sick of how anxious she feels and she’s sick of obsessing about the relationship so much of the time. As a result she decided to […]
The Problem With Avoiding Arguments
Thursday, May 31st, 2007One of my clients came to me recently very confused about why his relationship seemed to be getting worse, even though he’d been using the ‘Time Out’ tool I’d taught him. As far as Paul was concerned they’d managed to go without rowing for over a month which appeared to be a total breakthrough given […]
Arguments That Push Your Buttons
Thursday, April 19th, 2007As a result of publishing Should I Stay or Should I Go on the net I’m working more and more with couples in crisis. One of the things I see time and time again is that a lot of couples seem to have the same fight, or at least end up in the same place […]
Listen Carefully
Wednesday, March 7th, 2007I’m quoted in the March edition of Cosmopolitan in an article titled ‘Why he loves you more than you think’. My section is about how much importance you could be putting on the words your loved one uses about you. Men in particular are very literal when it comes to the things they say. At […]
Overcoming Jealousy
Wednesday, February 7th, 2007Liz recently starting having the most intense feelings of jealousy around her partner Mark. She was really worried she would destroy her relationship with him. More specifically she felt very threatened by his ex girlfriend and some of his work colleagues. As a result, she was becoming distant, critical and had started checking his emails […]
How To Stop Arguments Before They Start
Wednesday, December 13th, 2006I’m still putting the final touches to Should I Stay or Should I Go and I’m really amazed by what I’ve learned whilst researching it. So many more of the problems between couples than I ever realised are actually communication based issues not compatibility mismatches. This is great news if you are in a relationship […]
Love Hurts and Here’s Why!
Wednesday, November 29th, 2006Sometimes when working with a client I share something about my own life, or more specifically about my own struggles. At the end, when I ask them what the best thing was about the call, they’ll often say that it’s nice to know that even I struggle in my relationship.
I recently got to thinking […]
He Never Says ‘I Love You’
Wednesday, November 1st, 2006Joyce* has been coaching with me for a couple of months and came to me because she was considering leaving her relationship. She’d been with this guy for the last two years but had got to the point were she could no longer ignore her sense of feeling unloved and under appreciated. Initially she was […]