Meet singles free in your daily life

You want to meet singles free or at little cost. And if you're like me, you've been ignoring your 'day life'.

Why?

Because we've all been conditioned to think that 'night life' is the best place to pull. Time to think again.

Your daily life is full of opportunities to meet singles free. And it beats the pubs and clubs as a venue for finding your future partners.

Of course there are pro's and con's to meeting partners this way. So let me tell you the where's, who's & how's of day life intro's.

Why is day life better than night life?

• People aren't trying as hard to impress during the day, so you don't have to work so hard to get their attention

• They're not expecting to be hit on, so their defences are down

• It's cheaper!

• You spend more time in day life than night life (don't you?)

The downsides?

• In the more challenging places it can take guts to introduce yourself. If you choose your venues well this won't be a problem for you. More about this below.

• It's more difficult to transition into getting their e-mail or phone number

Where to go to meet singles free

Ideally, you'll incorporate meeting people into your existing lifestyle. If you're out in public a lot already, then that's easier to do. However, if have hermit tendencies then you'll need to take positive action to get out and meet people.

Your Existing Lifestyle Venues

• Public transport
• Work
• Eating out
• Shopping - food, clothes, household stuff, anything!
• Gym
• Social activities

But what if you don't get out that much? What if you work from home? What if you prefer shopping on the net? What if you're a workaholic and don't get much time for anything else! Then you'll need some...

New Venues

...where likely potential partners are hanging out.

Women looking for men, try:

• Sports events- football, rugby, motor sport, etc.

• Male oriented gyms- weights ones if you like 'em beefy

• Technically oriented clubs - cars, bikes, computers...

• Sports activities - squash, abseiling, paintballing...

• Male clothes shops - particularly if you want one that knows his Armani from his Emporio

Men looking for women, try:

• Dancing - Ceroc, Salsa, etc

• Female populated fitness classes - Yoga, Pilates, Aerobics

• Shops - Any shop you don't like being in! In clothes shops you can always pretend you're looking for little sister's present.

• Workshops & night classes

Remember though, all venues are not created equal.

Some make it easier to introduce yourself. Dancing at one end (you're pretty much forced to talk to each other) to restaurants at the other (you're invading boundaries and seriously digging for excuses to start a conversation).

You could term these as 'More Social' and 'Less Social' venues. And here's...

How to introduce yourself

At 'More Social Venues' - Hobby/interest clubs, dancing, etc. This is anywhere that conversation is either expected or easy to get started. That's why you really want to pick these venues if you can.

The easiest way to start off conversations is using the subject of where you are. Chat for a few minutes about how he got interested in abseiling. Then, when you've broken the initial introduction awkwardness, go from there.

At 'Less Social Venues' - Out shopping, restaurants, etc. These are venues where it's a bit more difficult to start a conversation without looking like you have an ulterior motive.

The easiest intro is to simply ask for help.

'Can you help me choose what type of paint I need?'

'Do you mind me asking what you're eating? It/You* look delicious.'

(*delete as applicable!)

How to get that date

You know when I said the downside of day life is transitioning a conversation to a date. Well, to be honest, using the tough venue's (the less social ones) should be left to the professionals. Or the confident.

At the more social venues you can build up a friendly relationship over a few weeks and shift round to teasing out their e-mail address or phone number. You can suss out if they're single through subtle questions. You can set up 'social' meetings before or after your normal meeting to 'ease' your way into dating.

With the less social venues your flirting, dating and conversational skills need to be worked on. Time is really important here. You can't hope to transition from a question about the right chipboard for your house extension into, 'What are you doing on Saturday night?' without a lot of brass neck and a good chance of a knock back.

One technique you can try in a less social venue is to suss out a mutual interest you share & create a potential date around it.

Say, you find the two of you share a love of scuba diving. You happen to know that the Sub Aquatic show is on next week. So you say, 'The scuba show's on next week. I'd love to go, but I hate going to those things on my own...'

and wait for the response.

No response? Then time to break off and spot your next target.

There is no better way to meet singles free than in your daily life. Just make it easy for yourself to start with. Go for the more social venues (even if you do end up spending a little money) and then as you get more confident transition to the less social ones.