Extramarital Affairs

Below you'll find the help on extramarital affairs you need that suits your situation the most.

Background on extramarital affairs

Whether you're in one, thinking about one, or you suspect/know your partner is having one, one question at the forefront of your mind or nagging away in the back is WHY?

Why me?

Forget the 12 reasons this.the 5 categories that.blah, blah. There's only 1 real reason why an extramarital affair happens. It's bringing pleasure (or at least it was supposed to bring pleasure) to the person that engaged in it.

The reality is that it can cause, and usually does cause, much more pain and destruction than you'd ever expect, even though the pleasure may have been there too.

But the underlying reason that you or your partner sought that pleasure, sought that excitement, sought that affair is because something is missing from your current relationship. Maybe it's something that's never been there. Something you once had but is now lost. Or something you discovered you want but your partner isn't giving you.

What's missing?

What is that something in your case? Well, why don't you take a guess right now at what YOU think it is? Take a moment to think and answer that in your head right now.

What did you come up with?

Well, you're probably right.

Often what's missing is obvious to both partners, but because we are in our daily routines of life, because we don't work on our relationships to continually review and improve them, because we don't communicate with our partners about what we're feeling, it gets to a stage where one or other of you looks outside the relationship to get what it is that is missing. Or maybe someone enters you or your partner's life and that element that is missing is glowing within them. How tempting it is to take what's on offer. Wrong. But tempting.

That's the simple part of extramarital affairs. Everything else is complex! But let me help you to take at least the first step in the right direction to working out what's best for you and best for your relationship.

Click on one of the following links to jump to the most appropriate section for you.

• Thinking about having an extramarital affair?
• Already having an extra marital affair?
• Suspect your partner is having one?
• Recovering from your partner's affair?
• Recovering from your own extramarital affair?

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