Couples Arguing - Are You Compatible?

So you argue with your partner. Sometimes BIG arguments! But how do you tell the difference between arguments that can be resolved in a relationship and ones that indicate that you're with the wrong man? How do you tell the difference between an argument that displays a fundamental difference in compatibility between the two of you and one that is just a rules breakage or a sense of hurt?

Are You Compatible?

There are two distinct cases of couples arguing here.

1. You are incompatible – the relationship will never function properly and the arguments are symptoms of that.



2. You are compatible – but there are some rules differences and some communication issues that need to be sorted out in order for you to live happily together.

If you are incompatible. If there are too many rule differences between the two of you. If you have different styles of dealing with arguments, or if you're arguing because the difference between you and your partner's characteristics are too great, then you need to know.

Otherwise you end up trying to save a relationship through hard work, determination, counseling, optimism, or even blinding yourself to the truth.

Or the other side of the coin is if you're fundamentally compatible, you can end up throwing away a relationship that's perfectly good, just because you think all the arguing means you're not meant for each other.

Either way, you can make some pretty big mistakes in relationships if you're not clear on what you need from your partner to be happy long term.

Clarity of Needs = Clarity on Compatibility

Fortunately you can work out exactly what you need in your partner to ensure you won't make any mistakes – like getting rid of the right guy or staying with the wrong ones.

All you need to do is work out explicitly what your needs are and what your values are. Once you're clear on them, once you're clear on who your 'perfect' partner is - then you'll know before any arguments start whether your relationship is right.

Get access to a very simple method of working out your needs in Finding Mr. Right. In it, I give you all the exercises you need to get very clear on exactly who you need to be with, what their most important characteristics are and the characteristics they absolutely mustn't have.

Once you've completed your 'perfect partner' exercises and you have your list of criteria you need in a man, you'll be very clear on whether the person you're currently with, or are going to get with, is fundamentally right for you.

If you're concerned whether your current partner is right for you or not. Or if you want to make sure you get with the right partner, get Finding Mr. Right.

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