Ask Some Standard Dating Questions

Sometimes there are no clues left to explore in someone's conversation. Or you've missed them all. And you can feel that awkward pause starting. At this point you can always fall back on your standard dating questions. I say dating questions, but these can as easily be used in any conversation.

All you need to do is start off by learning one.

Just one.

So that any time a conversation stops, you can bring this question to mind and toss it into the arena. And it's done, you've evaded that awkward pause and the conversation has started off again.

Once you've learnt one, pick another and learn to recall that one easily in conversation too.

14 Dating Questions

Here are some standard dating questions that you can use to kick-start a conversation.

Highlight your favourite 5 and learn them off by heart, one by one, so that you can throw them in to any conversation.

1. What do you love to do in your spare time?
2. What do you do for fun when you're not doing this?
3. If you could do or be anything in your life what would you like to do/be?
4. I'm really stuck for somewhere to go on holiday this year. Where's your favourite place?
5. Have you seen any great films recently? What are your favourite, all-time, top 3 films?
6. Do you know anywhere great to eat around here?
7. I'm not very familiar with this area, where are some great places to visit?
8. If you were guaranteed "success", what would you do?
9. What talents do you have that few people if anyone sees?
10. Tell me about the dream that got away?
11. What do you think is the difference between submission and seduction?
12. How do you relax?
13. Would you prefer a holiday in the mountains or one by the sea? Why?
14. What is a perfect day for you?

If you're like me, you may feel a little bit awkward just blurting some of those out. So you can always preface the question with something like:

So tell me Alan, ...<INSERT YOUR QUESTION>

Strange really, but just those additional few words make it a little bit easier to start up the conversation again in a different direction. I also like to do this because everyone's favourite sound is their own name so it makes the question friendlier and more personal. There are other phrases you can use to preface your question and make it easier to shift direction. Or you can use a whole sentence or two:

"You know what, I still find these speed dating conversations a bit surreal. One minute you're talking about <THE TOPIC YOU WERE JUST TALKING ABOUT> the next minute you're talking about <THE TOPIC YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT>. <INSERT YOUR NEW QUESTION>"

So that might read:

"You know what, I still find these speed dating conversations a bit surreal. One minute you're talking about freshwater salmon the next minute you're talking about favourite holiday destinations. So tell me Sandra, if you could go anywhere in the world, where would you love to go?"

So those are your main options for keeping a conversation going.

• Ask open questions
• Search for the clues that give you a new topic of conversation
• Ask a standard dating question to kick-start your conversation.
  

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