Know Your Standard Dating Answers

Of course, conversations are two sided. Sometimes you may even be asked a question yourself! If it's an interesting question then you should have no problem answering it.

However, we are not all gifted with the great conversational skills that you are learning and will put into practice. And nerves play a part too. Sometimes people just blurt out those standard and inane questions that they feel obliged/pressured into asking:

What's your job?

Where do you live?

To be honest, they're not that bad a question because you can always segue into another more interesting topic from there. But in order to shift the conversation on from that question, you need to make sure that your answer gives some good clues to your partner (or options for new conversations as you now know them to be).

If you are asked, 'What do you do for a living?'

'I'm an accountant'

is not the right answer.

You may well be an accountant, but you need to give them more than that. Make your answer as interesting as you can. Give them clues to pick up on. A better answer might be:

'Well, I'm responsible for handling millions of pounds of cash every day. I get to decide who gets it and who doesn't. Everyone wants to be my best friend as a result. But you know, I really didn't want to be an accountant. No. I wanted to be a lumberjack'

Of course, you'll need to say this with some humour and your tongue virtually pushed through your cheek. But you get the message that 'Accountant' is a bit less easy for people to respond to than the second answer above.

So rather than waiting till someone asks you one of those standard questions to think up a good answer, I want you to prepare them up front.

You don't need to be witty or humorous, particularly if you don't feel comfortable. The main thing is to have an answer that gives the other person somewhere to go with the conversation and that you feel comfortable saying.

Write down your answers to the following questions now. You don't need to learn the answers off by heart and look like you are reading them from the inside of your eyelids. But do remember the gist of what you want to say so that your answers come across as reasonably spontaneous.

Question: What do you do for a living?
Answer:



Question: Where do you live?
Answer:



Question: What are your hobbies?
Answer:



Question: What do you do for excitement/ fun?
Answer:

If you aren't writing them down now, you'll kick yourself the next time you're asked them. You'll come out with the same old, probably drab answer you always do, and another opportunity will be lost. So if you aren't writing them down now, kick yourself a few times the next time you give your same old answers to potential dates, then come back and actually write them down!

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