Answering In An Expansive Way

The logical extension of the last two things you’ve learned is that you should learn to answer in an expansive way. You should be able to lay enough clues in your conversation for other people to pick up on and continue the conversation. And, not in just your standard questions, you should be looking to give fuller answers, full of those clues.

Having a conversation is a bit like dancing on ice with your partner. You both have a responsibility to each other to be able to glide smoothly around the ice and enjoy yourselves. If you go to jump and your partner isn’t there to catch you, the landing can be pretty hard. So in a conversation not only do you have a responsibility for asking good questions, you also need to be able to give a good answer that will allow your ‘dance’ to continue smoothly.

Don’t give one or two word answers on a regular basis, they make it very tough for your partner. At the same time you don’t want to wander off into a monologue only to find that your potential date left 2 minutes ago and you hadn't even realised.

You need to judge the right balance as the conversation progresses. If you are having conversation difficulties and your questions aren’t pepping up the conversation, then now is the time to try expanding your answers a bit more and give away more clues.

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